The New Church teaches that there is one human bond which rises above all others in the beauty and magnitude of its love. This is the bond shared by married partners who cultivate what Swedenborg calls 'conjugial love'. A truly conjugial state is a union of souls between a husband and wife who look towards God in all aspects of their marriage. These married partners remain together for eternity, continually evolving and being renewed in their love.
Man and Woman are each partial reflections of the Divine, and it is through their union that they most wholly mirror the image of God. It is also through a spiritual marriage that individuals are able to reach their highest potential as human beings. A conjugial partner is the person who will allow you to perform your greatest use, and is consequently the person who will make you the happiest.
However, taking marriage vows does not necessarily mean having attained conjugial love, nor does being 'in love' signify the conjugial state. Genuine marriage love extends beyond legal ties and is far removed from infatuation. This kind of bond is founded on innermost friendship, a desire for the other's happiness over one's own, and an unwavering commitment to each other and God. In heaven, marriages include a depth of peace, innocence, delight, security and, yes, sexual union that is beyond what we on earth are able to imagine.
Spiritual growth and marriage work together, hand in hand. To the degree that a couple looks toward God, they will be blessed in their marriage. It is the fundamental relationship in which to apply all that God has taught us about kindness, compassion, and selflessness. When we use these same teachings in a marriage framework, we set a course toward happier lives. The Lord has said, "Give and it will be given unto you." This is truer in marriage than in any other relationship.
Read more about Marriage...
- www.CaringForMarriage.org, with ideas about marriage enrichment from a New Church perspective
- Family projects & activities at www.newchurchvineyard.org
- www.NewChurchWedding.com, for those interested in a New Church wedding
- Conjugial Love by Emanuel Swedenborg
"For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together let not man separate."
"Married love is celestial, spiritual, holy, pure and clean, more so than any other love which exists from the Lord with the angels of heaven or the people of the church."